What Makes Our Training Different And So Effective?

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At Alpha Waves we don’t just tell you what you should or should not do.



Many people come to me for meditation training and tell me that they can’t shut off their minds. They say that their brain is too active. My standard answer is: “Great it means that you are alive!” Minds are supposed to think; it is the function of your mind to think.

However when a person is under either chronic or acute stress the mind goes into overdrive, and we exhaust ourselves trying to keep up with thoughts that seem to spring out of nowhere. At this point a person has lost awareness of the here and now and is a victim of their own internal dialogue. Their body will respond to any thought as if the thoughts are reality and they will become more and more stressed. However the answer is not to fight the mind and to try and shut it off. You will be fighting losing battle.

One misunderstanding people often have when they come to see me for meditation training is that you simply sit down and then something magical happens and you meditate. When a meditative state does not happen, they then believe that they can’t meditate. Meditation is no different from any other activity in that you need to prepare the ground before the seed can grow. In other words you need to get ready for meditation first before meditation can happen.

One of the first principles I use in my type of meditation training is to have rapport with oneself. We often think of rapport as being on the same wavelength with others, but rapport needs to start with oneself; especially when learning to meditate. Think of building internal rapport as one of the most important preparations for meditation.

This principle of ‘Rapport’ features large in Neuro Linguistic Programming, also known as NLP.

The way I explain ‘Rapport’ is as follows:

When you walk down the street with a small child and you hold their hand, you match their step. You take the same kind of paces. In their reality, small steps are the way you walk! As you are pacing this reality of small steps, the two of you are in rapport.

The alternative is to hold the child’s hand firmly and drag it along whilst you do your normal length paces. You can imagine what that creates! Rapport is not the word I would use. Conflict and stress would be closer to the truth.

So, for you to be in rapport with yourself, you first of all need to ‘pace your reality’, which might be that your mind is all over the place. Think of your mind as the small child with the child’s steps and match your technique to those small steps, or in other words, to the mind’s over- activity.

Therefore the first preparation you will learn is to ‘pace’ your mind. I apply several techniques which I have learned during my NLP training and my work in my NLP Practice that work very well and very quickly. Once you have mastered that first step you will learn some generic techniques that work for most people. These are modelled on what skilled meditators do sub-consciously to make them successful with their practice.

Many years back I learned meditation the hard way by following a traditional technique which will work fine for some people, but the technique was kind of all-purpose. This caused me lots of problems and it was very difficult for me to stick with it.

There is nothing wrong with so called ‘traditional’ methods of meditation; except that in many cases the method does not suit the person it is taught to.

In fact, the main reason why there are so many different kinds of techniques in existence is because different people need different techniques. Often the teacher/trainer would have had great success in their own meditation training and is therefore keen to pass this on to their students.

I will help you ascertain how you process the world around you; finding out which is your primary sense. On the basis of this I will teach you some techniques that should be easy for you to follow, as they will be totally in rapport with how you naturally manage your brain.

Don’t look for stillness….it will find you!

David Koo-Tai Chi Master in Tobago